We human beings are very clever! From a very young age we quickly learn that telling lies and exaggerating can not only prevent us from being punished for something that we should not have done but telling lies can also help us to get some of things that we want.
So what difference does it make if we tell a lie from time to time? The odd 'fib' once or twice a day .... a little exaggeration now and again .... blaming others occasionally .... can't do any harm surely? One big problem with being dishonest and exaggerating is that it is a very easy habit to start and continue but a very very difficult habit to stop; and as we get older the consequences of being dishonest increase significantly.
There are many reasons that we might tell a lie, exaggerate or make excuses. Here are a few for you to think about:
It can take a lot of courage to tell the truth particularly when we fear consequences or some form of punishment. (It can also be difficult to hear others being honest about something that has happened particularly when we have been involved and would rather keep the truth hidden!) However, as we grow older and take on more responsibilities and commitments it is very important that we stay aware of what we are saying and how it affects ourselves and others. It is equally important that we learn to admit our mistakes and take responsibility for the things that we have done (or maybe failed to do). It is very easy to blame others (or blame the situation) when things go wrong which can often mean that we are trying to cover up our shortcomings and weaknesses; hearing ourselves blaming others but then correcting ourselves or apologising is a big step towards living a more honest life.
The famous author Mark Twain once said
"If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything" .....
spend some time thinking about the meaning of this. Is he right?
Being honest not only gains us a healthy reputation for being a
truthful person but also protects innocent people and allows
us to live our life without worrying about being 'found out' at some
time in the future. When we lie or deceive or exaggerate we are not being
our true self; instead we are wearing a mask which conveniently tricks other
people for our own purposes and gains.